Today, Already its more than 365 days, since we got married, and still I am trying to analyse how fast all these days went by filled with so many interesting moments, experiences & memories… Alhamdulillah by the mercy & grace of Allah (S.W.T), I call myself a married man now!

All those things I heard from people, and those things portrayed in novels, movies & dramas are very different than realities, because mostly those things are based on desires & emotions, and not on the principles and values of Islam. And all those things propagated on Social Media somewhere seems unrealistic to be performed in real life, especially for those who fear Allah (S.W.T), and wish to keep their marital lives private.

Many new dimensions opens up after marriage, be it regarding your spouse, in-laws, own parents & siblings, relatives, and the responsibilities as a Man of the House.

Alhamdulillah, the past one year of our marriage has been very interesting… trying to understand each other, our lifestyles, upbringings, thought patterns, likes & dislikes, trigger points, conflicting areas, and also methodology of coming on the same page after some misunderstandings/conflicts. The most beautiful part of marriage is – the sensitive & caring bonding that Allah (S.W.T.) placed between the spouses which helps them to come back to each other as soon as possible, and also remembrance of Allah (S.W.T) continuously helps in coming on a common page.

One of the most important lesson which helps us to get closer is to understand the fact that – It will atleast take 1 – 2 years to get familiar with each other in a better way, so lets not rush in judging things or making immediate conclusions. And this one lesson has proved to be highly beneficial throughout this whole year.

Also, it takes efforts from both ends to make marriage works in the best way possible. As a fact is established that at least 1 – 2 years are required for spouses to understand each other (for some it may take whole life – If they don’t have common connecting points… Alhamdulillah for Islam as it helps to stay on the same page always), similarly it may take 2 – 3 years for understanding the mind-set of families, and their ways of functioning.

Also another thing that makes bonding closer is to contribute in the household chores, and being highly supportive & patient when health is down of anyone.

Married life is a blessing, it brings peace to the soul, heart, and mind… and if the house is lit up with the Zikr (Remembrance of Allah), than the atmosphere stays positive. Another lesson which proved useful is to remember the fact that – Shaitan will always try to sow seeds of doubt, misunderstanding, impatience, insecurities, ill-manners, and a sharp tongue. So always try to seek Allah’s help against his tricks, plots, and evils.

Married life is a beneficial journey, and a healthy reference point is always necessary to be established. I remember together we read many beneficial Islamic books on married life, the purpose of marriage in Islam, the roles and responsibilities & the rewards attached with it, the challenges & hardships which may come on the way, and the successful stories of Sahabas & how they used to deal with things & their efforts & struggles to achieve their target to Jannah… together!

In depth, there can be many things which can be shared, and lots of beautiful moments to remember, as well as some bitter one which helped us to understand each other’s diverse point of views & finding goodness in it.

Married life is filled with both – peace, contentment, tranquillity, happiness, excitement.. etc.. As well as some regrets, guilt, sadness, and grief (if any decisions are taken in rush/with distorted information which caused mental – emotional harm to any of the spouse).. but I believe both these are healthy feelings if they are regulated wisely.. Because these both helps the spouses to get more closer to each other, and spend life in the most fulfilled manner.

Alhamdulillah x Infinity, for granting me a spouse who is not only a close companion, but also a support pillar in the vision I am trying to achieve in my life. May Allah (S.W.T) grant her.. his special blessings, support, protection, love, baraqah, khair, and most importantly his Raza (Pleasure).. And make us successful in both the lives (In this World & hereafter), and grant us with a progeny who can praise him, and be in his service always to earn his pleasure, and aid in his religion! And may his love, support, and protection be always with us & them!

Started another year with a Bismillah, and lots of prayers! The best way to continue our married life 🙂